I (23M) met a woman (45F) in South Korea on Instagram. She's kinda famous model and she loves Türkiye. She uploads contents about that culture. We started our relationship back in November 2025 and I promised her I will visit South Korea to see her. I went there April for 17 days. I stayed at her house with she and her brother.
On the second day in the morning, we were both on bed and she was showing me something on her phone and got a notification saying "Yes, I love you honey". My hands were shaking and she got afriad and kinda started to cry, this is not what you think and he's just a friend. And then I checked other chats, and she's talking to another guy as well. Saying I love you, kisses and sending nudes for both of them. She had a 17 year old brother (that's what she told me when I was in my country) but she told me after getting caught that's not my brother, that's my son. I didn't get mad for that, actually. I was heartbroken for the cheating. I didn't get mad and I held her to my chest and explained what she's doing is wrong and gave all my love, even though she has done something like this. When I check her phone she's saying "you're controlling me, don't do it. This is my private life. In Korean culture, we don't check others' phones"...
She told me those are my ex-boyfriend's and I won't talk to them again. She even promised me at the church that she would not do it again. I blocked them from her Instagram.
When I was in my country, we always took video calls and talked. She tells me everything. She's an English teacher at a school and also plays a big role in the church. It's like the school is connected to the church. So, she told me, I'm not a cheater, I'm a Christian woman. I don't do bad stuff. So, I believed her so much, and I thought she was the most honest woman I had ever met.
A few days later, she had unblocked and texted with them. I saw notifications again. When I asked, she said I can't just block them immediately. It will take time. I want to talk to them as friends. But they still talk like baby, honey. She also replies with hearts...
After that, she hid all notifications from apps. It was so painful, but I stayed calm. Because I still love her and always explained that what she's doing is 100% wrong. But she's saying that I control her.
We had an amazing sex life every day. She cared about me so much like a wife. We lived like husband and wife for 17 days, even though I carried deep pain inside me.
What I don't understand is why she does things like this. I feel like she loves me so much, but at the same time, I feel like she never really loved me. Maybe I was just an option to her.
She had a few Turkish boyfriends in the past, and she has visited there several times.
I came to Sri Lanka 5 days ago and we had a lovely time when texting and calls. After like 2 days, I saw she was following a guy that I told her not to follow. after a day, I told her "Babe, please unfollow him, it makes me uncomfortable." She said, " Honey, please trust me, he begged me to follow... I said, show some respect to your boyfriend.
She unfollowed him and after like an hour she send me texts saying, you're controlling me again. Don't control me. And she again followed that guy. I sent like 10 texts to try to explain without any anger but she didn't read. Next day when I woke up and checked, haven't read my messages, but she had uploaded stories and followed her ex-boyfriend again.
I did everything I could for her. I can even block my best female friends or anyone if that makes her uncomfortable, and I swear to God, I didn't cheat like this with someone else. Why can't she be like that????
I deleted Instagram and KakaoTalk. Because I can't live when she ignores me and follows all her ex-boyfriends. It's so painful. She never tried to have a deep talk with me.
I feel like I should download and see if she replied, but I know even she has texted and apologized. The same cycle will repeat. But I really want her. I hope she will change one day. I hope she will understand soon... It's so hard to carry this pain...