AITA for not attending my friends wedding?
So I (27M) was asked to be a groomsmen in my friend (25M) wedding this upcoming summer, to which I gladly said yes. About a week ago, I still hadn’t received the official invitation in the mail so i sent him a text asking when the wedding was so I could request off of work, and asked if it was okay if I brought my girlfriend of three years, to which he said no, I couldn’t bring her, because when he met her he said he felt insanely disrespected by her.
Little backstory to this. Me and my friend met online, and we’ve gamed a lot together over the past 8 years and gotten really close. He only lived a state away from me so we’ve met in person a handful of times. Well, this past Halloween, him and his fiance came to visit for the weekend, as we thought it would be fun. After they left to go back home, me and him hopped in discord together and were going to play some video games when he ranted to me about how my girlfriend doesn’t love me and that she was insanely disrespectful to them when they visited. He didn’t specify how she was disrespectful but the literally only thing I can think of is that she didn’t talk to them all that much while they were visiting. She is a super nice girl but she is quiet and very shy, so she does have a hard time talking to new people.
So i took about a week to think it over and decided I couldn’t attend his wedding without my girlfriend. So i sent him a text that read “Hey (friends name), I’ve done a lot of thinking and I don’t think I can attend the wedding without (girlfriends name). I 100% respect that it’s your wedding and your decision on who you want attending, but she’s also been my girlfriend of 3 years who I’m probably going to marry so it just doesn’t feel right attending without her. I want you to know though that there is no hate whatsoever on my end, I understand and respect your decision. I still love you and care about you and I hope your wedding is as amazing as you deserve.”
To which he replied “Sounds good. Guess that means more than the 8+ years of friendship. Good to know. Take care big man”
I personally thought I handled it well and sent a nice and respectful message to him, but clearly, in his eyes, I’m an asshole. So, AITAH for not attending his wedding?