How Would This Work?
I am new to this sub, and having gone through all the posts, I am sure some of them are unserious. Some probably want human interaction, which, if you are a nice human being and a cog in the late-stage capitalism machine, I can absolutely understand. But how realistic is this "relationship" going to be in the long run?
I am 28 now and my parents have been looking for matches for a couple of years. Boy, do I have stories, as I am sure many of you do too! They've reached a point where they tell me I should find the man of my dreams independently (skill issue, lol). Reddit seems like a growing avenue, but even in their quasi-desperation, how would I even induce any sense of assurance within my parents if I state that I met someone off Reddit? I have also grown up with several rules at home. Meeting someone regularly was a full anxiety-inducing issue. And the conditioning in me is pretty strong. The guilt is a tsunami. And when I try talking to people off of dating apps, I understand that meeting is a real part of courtship and nobody needs to be saddled with my upbringing.
After a long prandial discussion (heated exchanges (love language) between me and mom with dad focused on my culinary offering of the day), I have narrowed down my filters to my Mr Darcy being a non-smoker, non-drinker , vegetarian and someone who lives independently. (And unrealistically so, just impress my parents from the get go so we can date in peace and I don't have premature greying).
But now I realise I need someone to TALK to me. Be okay with my cozy hobbies. I'd probably need smelling salts if I ever met a well-read man who also chose me (because lmao, I'm me). This is anyway hard to find in the arranged dating setup.
The point is my dilemma is the lack of genuine connections in my current experience of the AM setup and a niggling fear of the possibility of Reddit. I say fear because I hate lying to my parents. And months of chatting/talking and then introducing to parents. Or clandestine meetings until we're sure, and I'll probably become an insomniac from the guilt.
Fellow ladies here, if you are indeed successful here, what would be a course of action you'd take to make the meeting with your family seamless? Men can answer too.
P.S. Late night thoughts, and I don't know if I've maybe chosen the incorrect flair. Apologies in advance.