During the early conversations between families, a financial expectation was brought up from his side (around 15–20 lakhs). My parents were not comfortable with it and clearly declined.
When I spoke to him about it, he mentioned that it might have been a smaller amount (around 5 lakhs) and said it would eventually be used for things for me, like jewellery. I found this reasoning a bit confusing, since the money would still be coming from my parents. He didn’t seem to fully understand why this felt off to me and mostly justified his mother’s point of view.
Later, when my parents spoke to him, he said that such expectations are sometimes common where his family is from, but assured that it wouldn’t be brought up again. After that, the topic wasn’t raised again, and both families agreed to move forward.
On the surface, things seem resolved, but I still feel a bit uneasy about how it was handled and the difference in perspectives.
Am I overthinking this, or is this something worth paying more attention to before moving ahead?
TL; DR : During marriage talks, his family brought up a financial expectation which my parents refused. They later said it wouldn’t be asked again and moved forward, but I still feel uneasy about how it was handled. Not sure if I’m overthinking or if it’s a red flag.