I’m 21F and my boyfriend is 20M. I really love him and I’m really really really attached to him. He treats me well overall and I feel good when we’re together, but I’ve been struggling with something for a while.
I feel like I’m the one putting in most of the effort to keep the relationship going. I’m usually the one initiating plans, checking in, trying to communicate, and working through issues. If I don’t do those things, everything just kind of stays still. He doesn’t take me to dates unless I ask to, he doesn’t think of buying me gifts but I do etc, he says it’s because of his financial state and once he finishes school and gets a job he will treat me how i deserve to be treated.
Another thing is that he’s told me he doesn’t think about marriage and doesn’t really want it (or at least not something he considers). I’m not in a rush to get married, but hearing that makes me feel unsure about the future, especially since I’m sacrificing a lot and investing in him with my emotions, time, effort and even physically.
I feel torn because I love him and he treats me like his princess and don’t ever want to leave.
Has anyone experienced something similar? How did you handle it, especially when you care about the person but feel like the effort isn’t equal?