Maybe a MIL problem, maybe overreacting?
Im hoping for an outside perspective because I don't know if im just over tired and being petty or if I have a genuine reason to be annoyed.
Baba is 5 weeks old so still very new. Before LO arrived my husband and I requested MIL to come round our house more (she lives round the corner) so that our dog can get use to her coming in because the dog isnt a fan of MIL for some reason and will bark at her and get skittish. Think she came around twice, and this was at the end of the pregnancy after asking multiple times and her just not coming when she said she would.
Now LO is here, everytime she comes around the dog has to get locked in her cage and will bark for 10 mins then give up which is annoying if im trying to settle the baby.
Last week MIL asked if she can take the baby to go see her sister. I told my husband I am not comfortable with that.
she's 5 weeks old, I get anxious being away from her.
the sister is 2 towns over, LO is breastfed which means either she will be starving and cranky or bottles will be used and I will miss a session to empty my breasts.
3)she just recently had a heart attack 6 weeks ago
4)in my opinion, she's not been around the baby enough to know her, and I cant say my rules such as no kissing the baby ( which she keeps forgetting) will be followed or no smoking anywhere near the baby.
Husband said no, she acted like a child and had a bit of a tantrum. We said we will can go see the sisters this weekend. She didnt reply to being asked if she wanted to come so guess it was more about her showing off the baby?
She came around last Monday asking if she can come help me out while my husband has gone back to work. I said yes, house is a mess, im shattered any help I would appreciate because it seems we dont have a village.
She came around, held the baby while she slept the whole time while going on about what's going on in her life, while I did laundry. So no help really?
Last night she messaged to ask if she can come round tomorrow. I said depends if baby sleeps well because im running on 2 hours sleep due to LO waking up every hour and cluster feeding. She said she will message tomorrow.
Am I in the wrong to be annoyed with all of this, that she's not being helpful at all but doing only what she wants to do? Or am I just that tired im being petty