I’m looking for advice/clarity. Two weeks ago my girlfriend at the time created what I see as a no-win situation for me. We were together for three months and the first couple months were great. She was the first to say she loves me, secured us as boyfriend/girlfriend, and even mentioned a few times she could see herself marrying me. A couple weeks before the breakup she kept telling me she needed space but was still calling me daily and sending texts with love quotes.
Fast forward to the breakup day. I was introduced to her daughter a bit before this and agreed to go stay in a hotel for the weekend a few hours away for a tournament her daughter was in. Within 30 minutes of us getting to the hotel she snapped at me when I asked a simple question trying to help connect to the hotel WiFi. I brought it up that she was being cold and snapped and she denied it and said “you can leave if you want”. I was shocked she said that. Then she said it again a little later… I still didn’t hint at leaving. Later that night she said “you’re just like my daughter’s dad” who I know she doesn’t respect. I decided to drive around for a bit and texted her to let her know I’m driving around but didn’t leave. Her response was again “if you want to leave we will be ok”.
I ended up driving around for a few hours shopping but couldn’t get past the feeling of being unwanted and her cold behavior. There were many other people there from the team and others. I ultimately decided I was going to drive home and texted her to let her know. Her first text said “ok, drive safe” but then 30 minutes later a text came from her “you made my daughter cry, never again”. Then right before I got home she sent me another text saying she was done with this.
I feel like she created a crisis in front of a lot of people to make me look like I just abandoned them to make me look like a bad guy and her a victim. I don’t know what to do with all this