I’m 33F without biological children, but I have two wonderful step children. They live with us full time, but see their mom every other weekend and spend Mother’s Day with their mom regardless of whose weekend it is.
I live 2 hours away from my family and my mom is giving me the silent treatment because I don’t want to spend Mother’s Day with them.
A few things affect my decision:
- The family insists on celebrating on Sunday, even though I have to travel there and back and work Monday morning.
- They work around my sister’s schedule with her younger kids, so we often celebrate late in the day and I’m getting home after dark.
- The biggest issue is that they don’t respect me as a mother. My mom says she’s “sad and disappointed for me” that I chose not to have biological children. When I mentioned that it’s part of the reason I’m not sure if I want to visit this year, her response was “I haven’t brought that up in months”.
She celebrates my sisters, but not me. They all exchange Mother’s Day cards and texts, but I never get acknowledgement. My MIL doesn’t celebrate either, she wants to be left alone (same!!) so my fiancee is on board with whatever I want to do.
Am I being a bad daughter? Am I wrong for doing what I want to do on a day I feel like is mine too?