My boyfriend wants me to take his last name when we get married but I can’t decide if I want to
So my boyfriend and I were recently talking about our last names and he asked me if I would take his when we get married. This will be a while down the line but we want to talk about these things now and figure everything out. I hadn’t thought about it much before that and now that I’m thinking about it, I’m not sure I want to. His last name is Ramirez. It’s pretty normal and he has so much family that the Ramirez name will carry on for many generations. My last name is Kendrick and I’m the only child on my family’s side with this last name as no other boys were born into the family. My last name has a lot of history and its more unique than his. I asked him if he’d be willing to change his last name to mine and he wasn’t really into that idea. Another reason I don’t like it is because my first name ends with the letters ra. So my first name would end with the same sound/letters of my last. It doesn’t really roll off of the tongue. I feel bad about this because he said it’s always been his dream to have his wife take his last name but I’m just not sure I want to. He suggested that I could change my middle name to Kendrick and I’m not going to do that. I like my middle name and it doesn’t fix the issue of the same ra sound of the end of my first name and beginning of his last. He’s getting his feelings hurt because I’m not sure about changing it and to me it comes off as selfish because if I take his name, my name will be lost. Although our kids will probably get his last name, I just don’t want to lose mine and the history behind it. I don’t know what to do about this situation.