(I apologize for how terrible I am at english)
Everyone, I really need to know what you guys think, and what might happen if I tell her her bf (my ex bf) will never change, given the fact that he is a narcissist.
She's been posting pictures of herself and sharing heart broken posts (IG). I know that kind of pattern, as I've been there when I was the heart broken one. We don't follow each other, we never talked, we never met, I'm just stalking her. I don't really stalk her all the time. I've moved on already and lived happily since the day I decided I'm no longer this narc's toy. I don't really care anymore. But I always knew she'll get to this point, that's why I do mind checking her... but it's not really something I think about every now and then...just this time, I really feel bad and also annoyed that her shared posts were about not being pretty enough, blaming herself in a relationship, and self down grading posts. It makes me mad, because that's exactly what I felt before. I want to talk to her and help her. I genuinely care for this girl, she's only 16, the same age when I was being victimized by that man. This guy is already 23! I can only send her a message through social media...she'll surely recognize me, I know he talked lies about me to this girl. So what do you guys think? I don't care if she recognize me, but I worry that she'll take that opportunity to tell him so he could love her. And if she does tell him, he might take that as a proof that I'm just as bad as what he told her I was. (They've been in love for 7 months now)
This is what I want to tell her: that nothing is wrong with her, he didn't really care for her, this guy also broke my heart when I was her age (focusing more on her worth, not on my feelings or him being bad), how I moved on so I could give her the courage to also leave this guy. Teens are sometimes hard to tame, so I want to do it as soft, peaceful, and convincing as I genuinely can, with that, I could be a safe space for her. I'm only 19, and I may be wrong with this mindset. I need to hear from the real wise people here.