So I’ve been dating for a while now mainly using OLD (hinge) and I had some not great experiences dating in my 20’s and now in my early 30’s the way I handle dating and see it has drastically changed and become much healthier.
I’ve gone on about 11 first dates since January and 20 dates in total.
Met lots of really great guys and my perspective of men has gotten better (it’s also humbling to ask about their dating experiences and hear it from their perspective ). But none of them have been the right fit, whether it’s mismatched values, timelines, or no physical connection (I always like to do 2-4 dates to give that some time to at least begin to grow).
My last 2 dating experiences haven’t been good. Guy barely looked at me the whole date, didn’t seem interested but would text flirt a ton but in person it was like a a totally different guy. He was wishy washy about doing a second date (like I said I always like to at least do a second -save for crazy incompatibility- cause a fist date is all nerves) and he bailed cause he said I wasn’t flirting enough with him via text. We’d had a 2 hour date where he barely looked at me…
Most recent one it was going good and I was trying to flirt with him and he commented that my eye color was “poop brown”…I know he was trying to joke around but it really deflated me and honestly didn’t make me want to continue talking to him. Our sense of humor and teasing just didn’t align.
BASICALLY:
Have you ever hit a point in dating where it’s not been bad but it also hasn’t been good and you took a break?
Did the break help? What did you do during it that helped you return to dating- and any success stories after returning refreshed?
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