I live with this friend who works from home. Despite the fact that she is constantly on the phone for work or with friends and sees her family once a week, she is still very starved socially and needs a lot of attention. She also drinks beer all afternoon which makes her neediness and loudness even worse and makes me, a recovered alcoholic, avoid her even more. She is fully functional though.
I work 12h/day at a physically demanding job so I'm not in the mood to take care of her social needs when I get home or in the morning before leaving for work. I usually ignore her and leave the room everytime she starts going on about her life, or I tell her that I have a headache and put my headphones on.
The thing is, the more I avoid interactions, the more needy she gets. If she can't talk to me, she'll start baby talking my pets or playing with them, to the point I have to take them for a walk so we can be in peace. If nothing works, she will just start talking to her cats out loud in the kitchen. She's getting desperate, it's been going on for a while now.
I keep suggesting group activities, concerts, new hobbies, reading, exercising, having friends over, etc. anything but therapy and AA meetings so far, to no avail. We talked about her unmet emotional needs and alcoholism, she is self-aware but still clingy and alcohol gives her way too much unnatural energy.
I don't want to be a btch and stop socializing with her altogether, but I can't give her 10mn without her trying to get 30mn or coming back for more all day. What else is there that I can do? I don't want to lose the friendship but I need her to take care of herself and not place that burden on me.
Tl;Dr: roommate who WFH needs social interaction, I need peace. She drinks daily and it makes her worse, and as a recovering alcoholic it makes me avoid her more.