Hello!
[the main question i want to ask him is if, again, if i am still the only person hes talking to and maybe if he thinks hes over his ex]
So me(f,22)and this guy(m,25) have been talking for about four months now. we started chatting on christmas. we had our exclusivity talk around mid march and said we weren’t exactly, totally ready for relationships but we like what we have going on and want to move with the flow but did mention that he only likes dating one person at a time and i am the only one he’s talking to and that he thinks it’ll stay that way. we didnt say we would be exclusive but we told eachother we are only talking to each other
He is hispanic and i am asian and he said i’m the only asian he’s talked to beffore cause he’d only been with latinas. mentioned their toxicity and said he was trying to stray away from that. i did mention tho after that i had been toxic before and that i overthink often. His last relationship was 1-2 years ago? i cant say for sure because he told me one thing but than said another and i feel weird asking exactly how long ago they broke up. he said this when we talked about the exclusive talk :
“… i don’t necesarilly miss her it’s just hard to go back to being solo especially after 3 years of one person, i don’t compare people or use anyone as a space filler you haven’t been a way to miss or reminisce anything from my past relationship…” cause i asked if he missed her. im not sure how to feel about the response and it makes me feel insecure. what if he still misses his ex plus the previous gf before this last one was a hs sweetheart whom when we went walking on a trail he mentioned her as “my ex fiance” and i was like… 😬😬 i mean its truue but finace is just such a big word but then i proceeded to ask if he got her a ring and stuff to keep convo flowing ig lol
i know his last ex cause she showed up on my insta recommended and i asked and ge said they ended on good terms and plus she has a man now, which i saw.
than, he was showing something on his tiktok two days ago and in his drafts was some latina who recorded a vid on his tiktok. i didn’t ask who it was but i peeped it.
he also gets snapchats from some girl but he said its his hg but like why y’all chat so much? and on snap
im insecure about not being latina although i grew up with a mexican brother in law, i know their music food and alcoholic beverages (lol) but i. don’t speak or understand spanish and i know he only messed with latinas back then. i feel small and scared compared to all the other baddies who can actually speak to him in his mother tongue 😟 plus they’re so pretty and bold but im shy and awkward lol
BUT
the reason i try not to let those thoughts control me is becaue he is consistent. i know consistency is key and he shows interests, texts me every morning and throughout the day about what he’s been up to and asks about mine, even if i didn’t reply yet
he always asks to hangout, i stay at his place 5/7 days with him or while he’s working, he goes out to places i invite him to. he met my sister and bil and bestie and i kinda met his brother and i play games with him and his old friends. his brother knows my name, but we didnt really introduce ourseleves to each other cause i was inside the car but he was calling his brother and mentioned my name in the call
he’s really sweet. he opens doors for me, would always pmu instead of having me use an uber for money, considerate, kind and i love his cats and stuff, we are getting more comfortable with eachother too since we’ve been seeing eachother and ive been stayin over more and yesterday he ‘saved’ me from an event i wanted to leave and he picked me up. i wanted to ask him if he wants to come save me but he said it himself n i got excited at the fact that i didn’t have to ask that he offered and wanted to