u/CherokeeTrailhawkGuy

So my apartment doesn't allow gas or charcoal grills, so I was thinking of electric.

So a couple silly questions. We have a regular household outlet on the patio. Is it worth it buying a freestanding outdoor grill, when I have an electric multi table top cooker that has grill plates (griddle,e plates, even waffle plates) that can be folded out flat?

We'd mostly be cooking for two people, 6 at most if we have company over.

Or would it just make more sense to invest in a "cheap" folding table (I have one currently stored at my parents house for camping) to put the table top appliance I already have one, and use the rest as prep space. Tye just clean it up and put it away inside?

Or should we really be looking at an dedicated outdoor electric grill, and a cover to protect it from the weather?

I'm not looking to grill anything fancy. Just basics like burgers, hotdogs, some stake etc.

Long story short my Financé and I are getting married June 21st in a civil ceremony. (Eventually when I get reestablished and comfortable in person at my parish is like to explore a blessing of a civil ceremony) And won't have an Episcopl priest (or any clargy( performing tye ceremony. But do want our Christian faith represented.

So I used the book of common prayer marriage ceremony (edited in parts to reflect it's a same sex wedding) as a guide. Just want to know if it's ok or tredding dangerous waters before I present it to my fiancé. (This is tye one part of tye wedding other then marrying him, that is important to me)

Ceremony

Dearly beloved: We have come together in the presence of God to witness and bless the joining together of these men in Holy Matrimony.  The bond and covenant of marriage was established by God in creation, and our Lord Jesus Christ adorned this manner of life by his presence and first miracle at a wedding in Cana of Galilee. It signifies to us the mystery of the union between Christ and his Church, Holy Scripture commends it to be honored among all people.

The union of husbands in heart, body, and mind is intended by God for their mutual joy; for the help and comfort given one another in prosperity and adversity; and when it is God's will the raising of children and their nurture in the knowledge and love of the Lord.  Therefore marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purpose for which it was instituted by God.

Into this holy Union N N and N N come to be joined.   If any of you can show just cause why they may not lawfully be married, speak now; or else forever hold your peace.

I require and charge you both, here in the presence of God, that if either of you know any reason why you may not be united in marriage lawfully, and in accordance with God's word, you do now confess it.

Matthew will you have this man to be your husband; to live together in the covenant of marriage? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him. In sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, be faithful to him  as long as you both shall live?

I will

Fransisco will you have this man to be your husband; to live together in the covenant of marriage? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and health; and, forsaking all others, be faithful to her as long as you both shall live?

I will

Will all of you whitening these promises do all in your power to uphold these two in their marriage.

People We will

The Lord be with you

People and also with you

Let us pray.  

I gracious and everliving God you created man in your image, look mercifully upon these two men who come to you seeking your blessing, and assist them with your grace, that with true fidelity and steadfast love they may honor and keep the promises and vows they make; through Jesus Christ our Savior, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen

Song of Songs 2:10-13 & 8:6-7

My beloved speaks and says to me:

“Arise, my love, my fair one,

and come away,

11 

for now the winter is past,

the rain is over and gone.

12 

The flowers appear on the earth;

the time of singing has come,

and the voice of the turtledove

is heard in our land.

13 

The fig tree puts forth its figs,

and the vines are in blossom;

they give forth fragrance.

Arise, my love, my fair one,

and come away.

Set me as a seal upon your heart,

as a seal upon your arm,

for love is strong as death,

passion fierce as the grave.

Its flashes are flashes of fire,

a raging flame.

7 

Many waters cannot quench love,

neither can floods drown it.

If one offered for love

all the wealth of one’s house,

it[a] would be utterly scorned

Psalm 67. Deus misereatur.

GOD be merciful unto us, and bless us, * and show us the light of his countenance, and be merciful unto us;

2 That thy way may be known upon earth, * thy saving health among all nations.

3 Let the peoples praise thee, O God; * yea, let all the peoples praise thee.

4 O let the nations rejoice and be glad; * for thou shalt judge the folk righteously, and govern the nations upon earth.

5 Let the peoples praise thee, O God; * yea, let all the peoples praise thee.

6 Then shall the earth bring forth her increase; * and God, even our own God, shall give us his blessing.

7 God shall bless us; * and all the ends of the world shall fear him.

Colossians 3:12-17

12 Therefore, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience. 13 Bear with one another and, if anyone has a complaint against another, forgive each other; just as the Lord[a] has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. 14 Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. 15 And let the peace of Christ[b] rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ[c] dwell in you richly; teach and admonish one another in all wisdom; and with gratitude in your hearts sing psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs to God.[d] 17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

In the Name of God, I, N., take you, N., to be my husband,

to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for

worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love

and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my

solemn vow.

In the Name of God, I, N., take you, N., to be my husband,

to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for

worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love

and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my

solemn vow.

N., I give you this ring as a symbol of my vow, and with all

that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the Name of

the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit

N., I give you this ring as a symbol of my vow, and with all

that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the Name of

the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit

Now that N. and N. have given themselves to each other by

solemn vows, with the joining of hands and the giving and

receiving of a ring, I pronounce that they are husband

and wife, in the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and

of the Holy Spirit.

Those whom God has joined together let no one put asunder.

People Amen

Let us pray together in the words our Savior taught us

Our Father, who art in heaven,

hallowed be thy Name,

thy kingdom come,

thy will be done,

	on earth as it is in heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses,

as we forgive those

	who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation,

but deliver us from evil.

For thine is the kingdom,

and the power, and the glory,

for ever and ever. Amen.

Give them wisdom and devotion in the ordering of their

common life, that each may be to the other a strength in need, a

counselor in perplexity, a comfort in sorrow, and a companion

in joy. Amen.

Grant that their wills may be so knit together in your will,

and their spirits in your Spirit, that they may grow in love

and peace with you and one another all the days of their life.

Amen.

Give them grace, when they hurt each other, to recognize and

acknowledge their fault, and to seek each other's forgiveness

and yours. Amen.

Make their life together a sign of Christ's love to this sinful

and broken world, that unity may overcome estrangement,

forgiveness heal guilt, and joy conquer despair. Amen.

Give them such fulfillment of their mutual affection that they

may reach out in love and concern for others. Amen.

The peace of the Lord always be with you.

People And also with you.

By the power vested in me by the State of Washington, I now pronounce you husband and husband.

You may seal your marriage with a kiss

It is my honor to introduce to you N & N for the first time, as a married couple

So my Fiancé and I have already decided on a wedding date (June 21st tye one year anniversary of our wedding) after trouble with venues for a wedding and reception we have gone to an original plan of civil ceremony and meal after at a restaurant with tye family and friends we invite (about no more then 30 people)

We are ok with the courthouse, but I'd really like something with a pretty setting or view. I was thinking about a park. Since it would just be the ceremony (so not too long) we wouldn't need it even all day. Dose anyone have any suggestions.

I thought of the amphitheatre at Deception Pass.

friend and his ex-husband's did theirs their very pretty (I photographed it) but it had limited parking that's not reserved with it, and unless guest car poll with full care it might not have enough parking on its own Fr cinf people to try to park at the main beach and hike there. (Not a long hike but not ideal sense my parents are older and he has some older family too)

I'd love to do it somewhere pretty and that we can reserve the spot (so we know it's available and don't have to worry about wrangling guests to a spot B, C, or D.

I'd love suggestions.

There is nothing wrong with the courthouse but I just don't feel it's a romantic setting.

Any ideas would be great. That way I can run them past my Fiancé.

So a condensed story. Two reasons lead to this gap. I was born and raised episcopalian.

baptized as a baby, did confirmation at 13. (Still have my book of common prayer with the signatures and inscriptions from the Bishop of my diocese (Olympia) and my priest. Attend Sunday school/church every Sunday, summer day Bible camp in the summer as a kid and youth groups in highschool.

At about the age of 17/18 because of tye election of the churches first openly gay bishop, and our priest supporting it. A large fraction of the parish became upset. Said very hurtful unwelcoming things about Gay people, gay Christians/Episcopalians and a couple know/suspected gay people in tye congregation. I was deep in the closet. (And experiencing my first untreated bipolar I episodes too) That made me feel not welcome/unworthy of being in church.

But a boss, that at 19, wouldn't give me Sundays off/a schedule adjustment to work a different shift to attend church, unless I got demoted from tye position I was in

That position guaranteed 40 hour weeks, so always enough hours to qualify for insurance. And at my low pay at time insured I could save towards retirement and pay bills. I'd be demoted to a 24 hour a week position and lower amount of pay.

The latter was the nail in the coffin of attending. And in that time I also deconstructed and rebuilt my faith after I came out. But I still struggled (do now too) with feeling I belong in my physical church/parish. But also deeply miss the community, and nourishment of my soul and faith from Sunday services.

And feel like now is the time to try to return. Still very nervous and afraid I don't quite belong. Even though the parish is affirming. Even marches in my city's small pride (not a big city) along with other local churches.

Does anyone have any advice. For context we will attend the 8:30 am service, it's smaller and shorter than the 10:30 service. However they recently added music to it too, which I'm excited about.