6 year relationship ended 3 weeks ago at the worst possible time of my life
I (36M) just got dumped by my (33F) gf at the worst possible time. We have been together for 6 years and have been residing in the same household for the majority of the time. While things have not always been great, I really thought things were going somewhere and as a result, I went in deep, maybe too deep in retrospect. When we met she was still technically married (red flag I know), but was working on getting a divorce. I ended up helping her file for the divorce since she had filed the wrong paperwork originally. She was also not working at the time and I encouraged and payed for her to go back to school. She spent the last several years going to school and getting licensed (all with my money). I even bought her a car (by the way I don't even own a car of my own). She recently started working a few months back and she has always promised to pay me back but I am starting to think this was just an elaborate scam. I have always paid for everything and supported her through everything. I paid for her hobbies, spent thousands of dollars building chicken coops to house chickens that she wanted. I took her on vacations, we went to vegas, skiing in Colorado every year, going to the beach, etc. I paid for her health insurance, when she needed dental work done, basically everything.
So here is where everything started falling apart. About 2 months ago, I was put on a performance improvement plan at work. While I tried my best to save my job I also know that generally when you get one of these chances are you are going to get let go. I have been looking for jobs but unfortunately everything is in the office and I moved somewhere kinda remote thinking I would always have some kind of remote job, well I was wrong! So I did what I had to do and started planning to sell the house and move closer to the city. We both agreed this was the smart and logical decision and so we made a plan to move most of our personal property into storage so that we can stage the house and get everything clean. During this time I was trying to work out a careful plan about how we can do this since I still needed to work and so did she.
One weekend 3 weeks ago everything fell apart. She left to go to her sisters and which was about 15 minutes away from where I was at the time. I ended up taking my kids to the lake on my boat for a final day( Iast day before i sold the boat). Well I ended up rubbing sunscreen in my eye and my eye got really really red and inflamed and I could hardly see and my youngest son called my gf to see if she could come by and drive the vehicle since i was having trouble seeing (this was actually his idea, I suggested that he let her spend time with her sister). She said she was busy and to call back if its still not better later so I went to drive down the road to a gas station to try and get the sunscreen out of my eye, but after almost hitting 3 parked cars my 14 year old son took my keys and drove us there. From there I had my son send her a text letting her know that my eyes were very inflamed and if she could please drive us home. At that point I was called a "liar, manipulator. Because If my eyes were that bad I should have just gone to the hospital, and I am a moron for trying to drive like that etc". I felt very betrayed and ended up driving the long hour long drive home barely being able to see anything. The following day she told me she didn't want to be with me anymore and she got all her stuff out the following weekend and left. I haven't heard from her since.
Both my kids witnessed all this and are extremely confused especially my youngest son who called her. He hasn't really been talking much since all this happened and I just feel really bad for him. She has been around since he was in kindergarten and now hes in 6th grade. I feel like she used me for my money and stuff and left when things were getting real. I live an hour away from the city and don't currently own a car. I have access to a company car I get for my job but it will be taken from me as soon as I am terminated. I spent the last few weeks selling everything I have including all my furniture. I now come home to a completely empty house reminded of just how hard its going to be to start over. I know everything will work out but right now its really hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel especially when the person that you thought had your back abandons you like this.