Hi guys,
I’ve had a rocky relationship with my ex for a couple of months. I broke up with him in December after he punched me various times after an argument on the back and arms. He has somehow managed to keep me in his life and in many ways I felt like I couldn’t lose him. It’s gotten bad to the point I’ve tried to go no contact and he ends up at my work trying to talk to me or to a pub I go to seeking me out.
Tonight it makes 6 days no contact and he ended up leaving me a voicemail in the afternoon then coming into my work in the evening. Asked him to leave and he wouldn’t. Pressed my security button and they threatened to call police, which he thought was funny and he ended up waving to the cameras. Had to say I’ll talk to him later to get him to leave. Stupid thing to say I know that. He ended up waiting for me to finish work, ignoring me saying he’s making me uncomfortable then left so I went to the pub to calm down and then he ended up there to try and talk again. Staff had to get involved as he got asked to leave and didn’t. He drove away in his car again so I booked a cab and waited for it to come. When I got escorted to the cab by staff he ran up behind us to talk again. A lot happened and I ended up getting into the cab and getting home.
I get home, just get out the cab and he runs out from behind a tree scaring the shit out of me.
I’ve ended up informing the police and writing a statement. I just feel incredible guilt. I really don’t know why as I know deep down it’s for the best but the thought of him getting arrested makes me want to cry. I feel like I’ve betrayed him.
Any advice is welcome please.
Update: I’ve been given an SPO (stalking protection order) which means he can’t contact me, or come to my house or work. I’ve been going through the motions but mostly grieving the lost relationship and what could have been. still really really sad.
TLDR: ex stalked me, got a SPO on him and now I feel fucking awful about it for some reason.