u/ChemicalBookkeeper58

I’m pivoting my career (not a crazy pivot at least I don’t think), moving out of my current city to live with my mom for a few months, and I’m single at 34. If you told me this would be happening two years ago, I would’ve thrown up from anxiety, but now I see it as a fresh start and a huge privilege. Hooray for growth!

Anyways I am definitely still shameful of the fact that I’ve been single for 5 years and dating this entire time with 3-4 monthers here and there but haven’t found a long term partner. I know this is probably me and work I need to do but I just can’t figure it out. I’ve had therapists tell me it’s just a matter of time and I’m starting to think it’s just not true? How does this make sense? Anyways, I am moving at 34 out of my current city because I really don’t see myself here long term. I feel at peace with closing this chapter. I will miss my friends but it’s not a great job market and not really where I want to date and then start a family. I’m having a hard time deciding where I should go though.

I’m considering NYC, Chicago, outside of LA, Raleigh, Philly, and the east bay based on my personal preferences for culture, diversity, walkability, energy, things to do, parks, and job opportunities. I’ve lived in nyc, Chicago, and sf so I know what I’m getting into. I just really want to find a partner, stop moving, and also love my community at the same time. Any thoughts on other places?

I'm in my mid 30s and worried about ageism as I pivot my career. I'm in UX and have known for a few years I need to pivot for many reason (interest, burnout, general misalignment). Brand strategy and marketing seem best for my skill set but I'm nervous given my age that that's a bad move given I'll be competing with 20 somethings. Plus if I'm making an intentional career move now, I want it to have some general job security as I approach my 40s and 50s. Any ideas! (former content producer, current UX designer, interested in brand strategy and/or psychotherapy but therapy will prob burn me out!)

I’m making my second career pivot and although I’m excited about it, I’m very worried I’m going to make the wrong move. I’m a former advertising producer, current UX designer, considering either brand strategy, general marketing, or psychotherapy. I understand what lights me up and what I’m good at (helping people, creativity, systems thinking, storytelling) and tech has slowly sucked away my soul. I tried keeping my role and switching into mental health tech but quickly discovered I just strongly dislike my function (design). As I’ve narrowed down my next options, I really want to make the right choice for my lifestyle, income standards, and satisfaction and avoid pivoting too many times as that will look chaotic. I’d like to be specialized in 1-2 things since I’m a generalist at the moment. Any guidance on questions I should ask myself, industries I should avoid, etc would be helpful. Thank you. I’m also mid 30s and know ageism may be coming for me and would like to consider that with this choice.

I’ve had two careers now that I’m super grateful for but I’ve job hopped a lot. I’ve received good feedback overall in both careers but mainly the first one, but I’ve only been promoted twice in my career and I’m 33. I’ve jumped a bunch and feel like in my current career I’ve kinda faked it to the top, but my skillset I would say I’m more mid level. I carry my weight, I get my work done, and I’m kind and curious during the process. I’m pretty unhappy in my second career and burnt out. Feels like my soul has left me these past few years and I don’t care if I become more skilled except for the fact that I don’t want to let others down and I want to be actually good at something.

I see people on LinkedIn who are flowered with compliments and just seem to do well in their role. This seems like most people, but I feel like if I were to post something, it would be crickets. I’m just average, the job hopper, the girl who can’t make up her mind or get really good at anything. I have connections that I’ve kept along the way but gosh I just wish someone was like wow she is soooo good at x. She crushes it at x. Never been me and I don’t feel close to it.

Why does it feel like others naturally achieve and succeed and leave a positive mark everywhere they go? Want that for me. :(