Not planning to do anything for mother’s day.
My mother has been struggling with an alcohol addiction for years. Since I was a child into my now early adulthood it has always been a problem that seems to have only gotten worse as the years go on. Family recently had a sit down talk with her since she complained nobody ever spoke or talked about issues in the house (we do, it’s usually about her violent and sometimes physical outbursts) and after a couple days of “peace” the same patterns continued as they always do. Storming around the house, slamming things, mumbling, cursing everyone out. Anything we say against her is a lie. Anything we do is wrong and we’re dumbasses. Anything we say that she has the chance to disagree with she jumps on it (even if it’s something she would normally AGREE with), and I’m tired of it.
I already plan on leaving soon, but I am currently trying not to speak or engage with her. She tried to make amends the other day and I shot her down, she asked why and I told her after years of borderline abuse and these apologies that mean nothing days later I am not going to entertain it and will not have a relationship with her until she seeks help. AA, rehab, whatever she needs. But she is very prideful and ego centered so of course she said nothing is her fault it’s all our fault and me doing this will “only make things worse”. And now it’s mother’s day tomorrow. And with things how they are, I don’t plan on doing anything for her. I want nothing more than a positive relationship with my mom, but I’m beginning to think it will never happen. I’d just like some advice if I’m navigating this the right way, if there is not real right way to navigate it, or just any type of advice about the situation in general.