I F26 and my boyfriend M26 have been dating for 2 years. We just hit the two year mark. He moved to my hometown for college and has lived there ever since, owning a business, working a full time job and bought a house. i have been living in that hometown since i was born, i love to travel and after getting laid off (for the first time) i got a contracted traveling job for 10 months. i couldn’t renew it since it was for 22-25 year olds. i have always said i wanted to move away from my hometown and had been in a relationship before this current one for 5 years where that partner did not wanna move at all.
i recently got laid off again lol and decided to look into seasonal work, i got a job immediately and 6 weeks later moved 14 hours away. Boyfriend helped me move and we had the best trip of our lives, he left and we both were so heartbroken but confident ab long distance. literally only 2 weeks in we both started to get frustrated with the long distance because i really like it here and now am not sure if id wanna move back home so soon (originally that was my plan). after many convos we decided to take a break but still talk (ik not the healthiest idea) well that week was extremely rough and i decided i do want to be with him so we talked ab it again and he has hesitations due to our “break” conversation and also because we don’t know how long the long distance will be.
Main thing im struggling with is do i move back to my hometown after one season away? He is not looking to do seasonal work or move anywhere except back to his hometown (which ive always said i would move with him to). i completely understand he’s in the midst of building his career and future foundations. i want a future with him so badly, but im constantly wanting to be a free spirit, i love change, moving new places and meeting new people. i love how he is stable and that he loves that life. how can we make this work long term with my want for both stability and freedom and his peace with being still and building a future. TIA!!