This is one of my first posts to this app in a while so please forgive me if I type any of this out in an odd way, also I just tried to post to a few different communities and this got removed, so apologies if this goes in the gutter. Anyways, this is about me, a (22 year old male), and my girlfriend (24 year old female)
We’ve been dating for just over 3 years, since I was 19 and she was 21 and she is my first real girlfriend since I was 15, and we have had some issues in our relationship, mainly with her fragile mental state when it comes to other women. For example, when we first started dating, for the first 4 months or so, there were NO issues, which is relatively normal. But after that 5/6 month mark, she began to get EXTREMELY weird and jealous about my older sister and I, and when I finally confronted her about it, I was indirectly accused of disgusting things about my sister and I.
These accusations have happened with almost every other girl I’ve been around since our relationship started. Every female boss I’ve had (them being 40+ years old) every female co worker, and even cousins, HER friends, and my friends girlfriends.
And I know I’m posting to AITAH, but I can tell you all right now I have never once in our relationship had any kind of desire for another woman, I love and have loved my girlfriend since the first week we’ve met and haven’t wanted anybody else.
Now, this issue still seems to be prevalent in our relationship, although she seems to be trying to hide that fact that she’s feeling that way about me being around other girls than actually dealing with it, and since I haven’t felt guilty about being around other women (because I don’t feel that way for anyone except for my girlfriend) I have forgiven her for every time she’s out-lashed at me and accused me of these disgusting things.
So, now that I’ve put some kind of explanation out on my biggest past concern, let me tell you what she admitted to me last week after I decided to confront her about how she had been acting; she told me that she had been fantasizing about other guys. And just before telling me this, she asked me “if we were ever to break up, would you still in my life at all?”
I’m not sure what to do, we’re both so young and she’s only had one other significant other in her life just as I had and she now claims as of yesterday, that she no longer feels the way she felt when she admitted this to me a week ago. Is this some kind of projection that has been in process since after those first few months??
Please let me know if I’m overthinking this. I think that moving on with my life and breaking up sounds the healthiest for me, but I love her so so so so much but I’ve felt numb, unmotivated and scared since she admitted that, is this normal for either of us?