So I've been sleeping in a separate room from him (my son's room to be exact.) I lock the door every night. I don't know I just don't trust that he won't one day hurt me in some sort of capacity.
He is highly aware that I am leaving (I know they say not to let an abusive partner know that you plan to leave but I couldn't physically be around him without feeling physically ill.) Despite how clear I've made it that I'm leaving he still refuses to accept it. He asks for use to at least be friends when we're separated. He says that I'm selfish for breaking up the perfect family. That it's more harmful for our son if we get a divorce. (Even went as far as to show me a TedTalk from 13 years ago of a professor discussing how divorce affects children. All of which was a poor way of manipulating me because I could see right through it.) He said during a conversation about shared custody during separation in context to who watches our son when im working. "Because you're not putting him in daycare" in a very angry tone.
I guess I'm just wondering those of you who made it out with kids how hard was this part. I know having kids complicates it so much more. I just want to make sure I'm taking the right steps moving forward. Also I'll admit I'm nervous to talk to a lawyer (despite knowing how much it might help me in this situation).