u/Checkmate9162

how do you know when its time to truly leave a relationship? our relationship can feel SO good sometimes then somedays it just feels like im miserable. im currently 7 months pregnant too, an maybe its just my hormones but i feel like hes so utterly mean and when i talk to him about this i feel as if he puts the blame on me somehow someway, sometimes its convincing that i might be the problem. for an example, i woke up at 1:30am earlier to telling him softly/nicely he was snoring really loud, only for him to yell at me & yell into the pillow while banging our headboard enough to knock some things off of it. i obviously froze an laid in silence because it kind of scared me in a way. he hasn’t ever done anything abusive physically but sometimes i do feel like hes emotionally abusive an it not only makes me worried for myself, but also for our unborn daughter due to me witnessing my father being physically abusive to my mom growing up. the only reason i even bothered him about the snoring was because i have my glucose test at 8:50am an just wanted to be well rested since i already am having a hard time falling asleep lately😔. somehow now i feel bad for bothering him.. which makes me wonder how his help with the baby will be during postpartum..

i do love him more than anything & leaving him would absolutely break me. i don’t even necessarily think we have the worst relationship but when i feel this way its so hard to not think i deserve better.. i also can’t just think about me anymore an my happiness but also our kid. i don’t think im happy anymore in our relationship, i have definitely lost my spark an i just feel utterly lost. but somedays im happy too, it just doesn’t make since an feels like im playing tug a war with my heart/feelings or making excuses to stay with him. i just don’t know what to do anymore ☹️