Salam everyone,
I could really use some honest advice.
I’m getting married (nikah) in about a month and a half, and recently I made a serious mistake. I don’t want to go into full detail, but I lied to her about something and even swore on it, which makes it worse. I regret it deeply and I’ve taken full accountability.
We talked about it, and she told me she forgives me and that it’s not the end of the world. She said as long as we learn from it and don’t repeat it, we can move forward.
But ever since then, her energy has completely changed. She’s a lot more dry, less warm, and it feels like she’s emotionally pulled back. We’re not talking much unless it’s important, and even then it feels very surface-level.
Now I’m stuck in my head wondering:
Is this just her way of processing things?
Is she slowly detaching even though she said she forgave me?
Or is this normal after trust gets shaken?
I’m trying not to over-text or force anything because I don’t want to push her further away. At the same time, it’s hard not to feel like I’m losing her.
For context, we’ve been serious, families are involved, and everything was on track before this.
I genuinely want to fix this the right way and not just say the right things.
If anyone’s been through something similar, I’d really appreciate your perspective. Especially from people who’ve been on either side of a situation like this.
JazakAllah khair.