u/Cheap_Plenty9103 — reddlx

Hey everyone, I recently dated a woman and things ended in a confusing way. I’m trying to process what happened and wondering if her behavior is typical of a dismissive or fearful avoidant attachment style.

Here is a brief timeline of our relationship:

early dating & creating distance: Things were going really well, but she quickly asked for "more space," saying we had just met and she didn't want me arranging my life around her. I reassured her that I value my independence too and wasn't rushing anything.
sickness & feeling overwhelmed: she suffered a painful injury and was stuck at home. I naturally stepped up to care for her - bringing her home-cooked meals and making late-night pharmacy runs. Instead of bringing us closer, she started feeling overwhelmed. She told me the dynamic was "too intensive" and she felt she couldn't "give me what I deserved". She was also dealing with the recent loss of family members. I explicitly told her there was zero pressure and I just wanted to support her.
the trip: Right before she left for a long trip to Asia, she trusted me enough to give me her apartment keys so I could feed her cat. However, during our goodbye, she expressed deep guilt again, saying it was hard for her because she "couldn't give me more". I reassured her again not to overanalyze and that there was zero pressure.
the pull-away (While Abroad): during her trip, her communication dropped off entirely. I eventually checked in just to ask if she was safe. She replied that my message confused her and she didn't know what to say. A few days later, she texted that our relationship felt "disproportionate" and a "walk once a week" was all she could afford to give me.
...the breakup: Shortly after, she texted me to end things, saying she simply didn't have the emotions for me that I probably wanted her to have, or that she wanted to have herself. I completely respected her feelings and stepped back. A week later, she asked me to hand her apartment keys over to her sister ..effectively cutting our final tie.

Questions:

What do you guys think about this dynamic? Does it look like she has an avoidant attachment style? Or could her behavior actually be a trauma "freeze" response due to her recent grief and the overwhelming stress of the situation?

Most importantly, what should I do now? Should I stay completely no contact, or is there a different way I should approach this? I'd really appreciate your insights