WIBTAH for trying to coexist/coparent with my Ex or is it too much?
So I’m trying to figure out if I’m being inappropriate or if my behavior is normal for a coparenting situation. I try to have a good relationship with my kids father so that they can see that even though we’re divorced we can still treat each other with kindness and respect.
My fiancée is upset with me for 2 main reasons. About a week ago my ex (who barely has 2 nickels to rub together) was stranded on a highway and would require a $500 tow. He called and asked if he could use my AAA number to get a tow. I told him that it probably wouldn’t work bc I would have to be there since it’s my policy but I gave him the number anyway in case he wanted to try. My fiancée was upset and said that he pours “resources” into me and that he’s not ok with me turning around and pouring resources into my ex. I’m assuming he meant financial resources. (I moved into fiancees house recently and I contribute to the mortgage each month and help pay for groceries but he does spend money on me.) I told fiancee that I spent zero dollars on my ex and that I don’t even pay for the AAA membership since I get it free with my cell phone service. I said that I was just trying to be a human being and be helpful rather than tell my ex to fuck off while stranded.
The second reason my fiancée is upset is bc my son wanted a tv for his bedroom at our house. When I got divorced six years ago, we had a bunch of tvs that my ex took. I asked my ex if our son could have one of those for his bedroom at my and my fiancées house. My fiancée blew up and said that that type of coparenting won’t be tolerated in this house and that if his future stepson needs anything I should come to him.
Did I do the wrong thing? Am I being “disrespectful” to my fiancée by communicating with my ex in these ways?