42M here, from Oxford in the UK. I'm currently awaiting an ADHD assessment but having been reading up on I'd be absolutely flabbergasted if I don't come with a positive diagnosis.
I'm gay and it was my now ex partner who alerted me to the likelihood that I have ADHD (maybe even AuDHD - he was doing it kindly, after years of holding it back).
I feel quite a lot of sadness and grief that it's taken me this long to realise this about myself. I've spent years beating myself up, berating myself for not being able to do things that most people seem to be able do with ease.
I'd like a family and feel like I've wasted a lot of time, without realising what the underlying problem really was.
ADHD feels like it's at the root of most of it.
My assessment is in a few weeks time, but medication isn't likely until November.
I'm a big fan of Stoicism. Time to practice the self compassion and radical self-acceptance ideas that it espouses, I think. It's hard though so I'm here to learn more.