So guys , the thing is this I'm someone who's a Govt servant, and the culture I live in there is a unsaid ritual that employed boys are in the groom cart of almost every uncle/aunt.... Let's come to the topic, I was not seriously thinking about marriage and all that stuff at this age but somehow proposals (rishtejo arrange marriage me aate hai gharwalo ke pass) are there.... Family is putting some of them and then forwarding the photographs and ofcourse their remark with it (ye dekh sundar hai ab krni to hai hi ek din.... Jyada age ho jane par achhe rishte nahi milte and all that).... So I chose one of them, then I contacted her... We discussed our career, why should we be the couple, we shared some memories (on social media ofcourse, we never met in person)... I asked her about her past and she told about a guy (name and all the reasons) with whom she was just a friend but somehow emotionally connected "according to her"..
That's all she told, we were going ahead, she was also an employee who got selected via the same recruitment I got.... Thus we got much common things and it resulted strengthening the connection.....
But then 2 days before tomorrow she behaved abnormal, when I asked the why, she told we should stop the conversation as we are still not engaged and family should first fix everything (her family once came to my palace, and they were asking my parents to visit theirs which generally means they are ok with our family)... She told uske gharwale khi or bhi uske liye rista dekh rhe hai.... Knowing she is lying, I stopped chatting/talking to her.... Next day she told me that I should not marry her as she's not a good girls.... In the conversation she told she had a past with one of my friends,, I cut the call....
I am unsure how to react to it
Now her family is approaching my parents to visit their home, parents are asking for my approval.... I'm totally stuck , I started loving her company, her IQ matches with me.... She handles effortlessly when I'm not in good mood (yeap I got to know all this in one month).....
But on the other side I've questions:-
Why she didn't tell me about this when I first asked her about her past
After telling and my instant reaction of cutting the call, she tried to have a word and manage while I's in anger and couldn't talk but now she is like "I don't care it's how I'm"
What should I do in this case..... Should I talk to her if yes what should I ask her, how to ask without making her feel uncomfortable 😣
RN mera sir fat rha hai kal se.... Kuch bhi samajh nahi aa rha hai.... Anyone who could help please 🙏🙏🙏🙏