AITAH for getting mad at my best friend for not coming to my cats birthday party
Hi, so I know title sounds a bit weird, but hear me out. Also excuse my writing/grammar, English is not my first language.
So I (F21) last week was gonna celebrate my cats birthday. I've had him for 5 years, and I genuinely consider him my son/family (I'm not really close to my actual family) therefore I'm celebrating him. I've held birthday party's for him before, and it always went well.
This year I made custom invitations (digital) I was offering cheese boards, muffins and wine. And for my cat we would be singing, giving him fancy food and lots of treats. I invited 5 people in total, whom I consider close friends, besides 1 person. This person who I'll call Genny, was supposed to come together with my best friend, since they live close to each other. On the day, 2 people (a couple) cancelled, which was kind of expected, cause they never really gave a clear answer if they were coming anyways. As the day went on, me and my boyfriend were preparing, I get a message from Genny, saying she can't come cause she's not feeling well, and it's a bit too far. Not even 30 minutes later my best friend messages me saying, I have to cancel, I'm not feeling super well. After I saw that I just messaged back "cool" to both of them, cause I was really hurt. Both messaged me 2-3 hours before it was supposed to start. Me and my bf just sat dumbfounded. At least 1 person came, which was my sister. She even came with gifts for my baby.
The next day I decided to write my best friend, I was quite mad and here's where I might have been an asshole. (It's translated)
Me: We were excited, (referring to me and my bf) cleaned the whole place, went shopping for cheese boards and wine, spent time getting it ready and baked fucking muffins, and on the day you're writing "oh it's too far" and "oh I feel bad suddenly" wtf?
I know the message is reactive/emotional, but this was how I was feeling at the time.
She started replying, listing the mental health issues she's had at the moment (Will not be listing for privacy reasons) but It kinda felt like excuses...? She just had to show up for not even me, but my cat who she always loved a lot too. I just feel like I can't expect anything from her as a friend?
I also just want to say both of us are not mentally well, and have our issues, but I feel like we were good at communicating and giving each other space when we needed it and be there when we needed it. And she must've known how important this day would be for me?
And this is where it ends... I have been feeling pretty shitty these past few days.
Thank you for reading
Edit: I know people don't love my cat the same way I do. This was supposed to be a get-together. People have showed up all the other years. Not only about my cat. I know I reacted badly, I was hurt. We were all excited for the day