my (20f) abusive brother (32m) tried to reach out and im conflicted
I really need advice. I havent spoken to or even about my oldest brother in 4 years and he texted me saying “hey its ______ is this _______ i got your number from ______ i just want to talk i feel bad about why we lost contact” we have the same dad but different mums he got my number from one of my dads brothers who i hate.
the reason we lost contact and why he isnt even acknowledged by my family anymore is we would fight all the time he would fight with me my mum our dad and my other siblings but one day when my dad was at work he lost his shit he hit me (i was 16 he was 28) hit my mum my little brother (who was 14) and tried to hit who i call my oldest brother because ive mentally disowned him but got his ass handed to him.
he would always pick fights with me and say stuff like “i used to be dads favourite until you came along you little bitch” and he was always the worst with me so i think thats why he reached out to me that or he thinks im the easiest to walk all over which its probably that option.
i tried to ignore him but a few hours ago he spammed my phone with messages apparently he was an addict then and is trying to do better and stay sober because he has a daughter now and wants to do right by her (couldnt even do right by his siblings but whatever). i dont know if i can give him another chance like im literally sat awake at nearly 5am because this is bringing back some shit that happened with him that i would rather forget.
i considered not telling anyone but i dont know if i can in good conscience because not telling my dad he has another granddaughter is cruel but also it would mean hes back in my life because my dad would not be able to ignore the fact he has a granddaughter so he would be around and i don’t know if i want that to happen. this feels selfish but he literally terrorised me any time no one else was around i dont know if i can face him.