u/Certain_Community950

My mum is involved in a love scam for the past few weeks. She started with sending $50 gift cards initially but the scam had ramped up and she is now sending 10k or more each time to the scammer. The family just discovered about the transfers and came to know her bank accounts are drained. She is now in the stage of borrowing money and pawning her belongings to send to the scammer, thinking that her actions will lead to her meeting the scammer in Singapore.

The relationships with the family is terrible now as she is now isolating herself from us. The scammer is very good at driving a wedge between us and gaslighting her. We cannot win on this front. She has turned against her children and her closest relatives.

I have filed a police report a couple of times - no update from them. Call the division and email the IO repeatedly and no replies. I don't know what to do with our crime busting agency. Requested to evoke the Protection From Spam Act via the police but can't do it if they ain't responding right?

I have called the banks to see what else they can do. Options are limited from their side to block transfers.

I have reached out to Mindline. iMH and other hotlines asking for advice on how to stop my mum and pull her out of her fantasy world. Nothing concrete to follow through.

I will be speaking to legal advisors on potential taking over of her finances - but need to prove she lacks mental capacity. I don't know if she meets that criteria but will give it a shot.

The family is very desperate and at wits end. The transfer is likely going to happen today but no one is able to stop her. She is simply not listening to anyone. I take it we will lose this 15k today.

But I worry this will not stop. The scammer will come up with excuses for more. And my mother will continue to fall into it.

We are not a rich family. Our savings are limited. And the way I see it, if this continues she may end up selling the HDB my dad left for her.

I need help. What can I do to 1) stop this transfer, and 2) pull her back into reality.

Long story short.

My mum is deeply involved in a love scam. She made friend with a scammer via Facebook. And as usual the scammer slowly got closer and closer to my mum.

We just lost our dad recently and my mum is feeling really lonely. And that turned out to talking to strangers on Facebook. My mum is in her late 70s and apparently the scammer is just middle age. Why the hell would he fall for my mum!

Now the scammer is probably asking for mother. We know she has been transferring money out of her bank account and sending to him.

My mum has turned against the family who have been telling her this is a classic love scam. Instead she has been siding with the scammer.

At this moment it looked like her entire savings will be lost to the scammer. It turned with 50 dollars a week. Now it has increased to thousands every week. Her bank account will be wiped out in no time.

We had reported this to the police. Called the banks to block her cards (which she can just unlock when she go back to banks). Nothing can be done. She is hiding her phone away from the children. And we cannot access the chats and his number.

Please help because the scammer is tearing the family apart. She has turned distant and we are constantly quarreling because of this.

What can I do to expose the scammer and stop the bleeding.