WIBTA, if I confront the guy I've been seeing considering we don't even know our relationship status?
WIBTA, if I confront the guy I've been seeing considering we don't even know our relationship status?
I (26f) am seeing a guy (28m) for about 3 months (just generally checking up on each other, and then we just dove right into a ldr for a bit and decided to just date in person).
Now he's not a stranger, we grew up together basically, family friends (his family knows mine and mine knows his, we spend time in each other's homes) in a very complicated type of situation. while our family esp the younger siblings and parents each visit each other from time to time, me and said guy let's call him Greg dont really acknowledge each other mostly because we've always been away from home for school and do not know each other that well.
When we started talking, my dad specifically told me to end it, my mum disapproved, noting that he's supposed to be family. That was last year around August, we stopped chatting but have recently started seeing each other, knowing that our parents would go ballistic and give us lectures about being too close to family, we kept it private but a couple of our siblings and family members have known about it for a month or 2 of the 3 months.
Now we both live in the same city and we've tried keeping things from our parents so we try as much as possible to not be seen in public together.
the downside is I wanted to put a label on our relationship, and he says the basic "let's not rush things" 1st red flag.
long story short, We've been to each other's houses maybe 3 times tops.
this past weekend, he brought me to his place, and as I rummaged through his things for laundry, I found a lady's underwear with a couple of t shirts in his washing machine, red flag 2. now I know he's not playing dress ups on the weekends or plays for the other team and that threw me off. but then he also has family (sisters and other family members) visiting all the time. Anyway, I didn't do the laundry and just left everything where I was standing. I dare not mention it, pretended everything was cool and just left. he's been reaching out since yesterday but I didn't reply or engage in a conversation with him. I'm still upset and confused.
I really wanted to confront him about it, but we've recently just started seeing each other, and I am so conflicted, knowing that I couldn't possibly bring this up with his siblings or mine i decided to get your opnions on this.
So WIBTA for confronting him about it? Or WIBTA to myself for not confronting him about it?