hi this is my first time posting here and I would really appreciate some help and guidance with this. i grew up on most women in my family hating their hair and doing chemical treatments to straighten theirs so i was never taught on how to take care of my curls (i have 3a hair) and it always look frizzy and unkempt growing up.
when i was 14 i decided to undergo a chemical straightening and it definitely straightened my hair. i repeated that same treatment around 3 months later and then stopped as i started to feel sad that my natural curls were disappearing. but after 10 months or so it got to a point i got fed up with my hair being constantly dried and never looking good + requiring a lot of care that i just couldnt do due to my schedule and school, so i decided to go to a cheap hair salon every week where i could flat iron and curl my hair. i did this for around 9-10 months (i know its a lot of time but i was just very stressed and depressed so i couldn’t even take care of my hair alone). so for 9-10 months i washed my hair once a week and had it flat ironed.
now i look at my hair and it looks ridiculous and always smells like burned. i just hate it and feel so frustrated because no matter what i do my hair just always looks bad.
please help me out and give me some advice on getting my curls back and making my hair look healthy and cute. my mom has different hair than i do and has always relied on getting it chemically straightened so i cant ask her for any advice. And all other girls i know who have hair like mine have never been this neglectful so i just feel ashamed to even ask.
this is my last resort help me out please 🙏😭
also sorry if my english is bad its not my first language