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My (25F) parents have made all my life decisions for me, even if they were coming from a good place, I was conditioned to always obey them.

1. Took science because they said it's the best, take business later.
2. Went for an MS abroad because they said if I don't go they'll get me married in India. Now I'm not enjoying my job and struggling in a HCOL city just to pay off a debt I didn't even want.
3. Now are disagreeing with the person I chose I want to marry. Giving any and every possible reason except the main one - they didn't get to choose.
4. Discouraging me for a solo trip although I can afford it, only because I am finally standing up to them.

They have lived abroad, and yet have the smallest mindset.

I feel guilty any time I don't listen to them because I'm so used to making them happy all the time. I know the advice to just do things that make you happy, but how do you detach your happiness from theirs?

How long did your parents take to accept your inter-caste relationship?

My bf (25M) and I (25F) have been dating for 3 years. He's starting his MBA this year and we want to get married right after. I'm from Rajasthan and he's from Odisha. We're quite serious about each other.

My parents have been forcing me for marriage and I finally told them about him. They're not convinced due to the timeline (2 years is too long of a wait) and him being from a different state. They think I'll be too old by then and that I won't be able to adjust to the new traditions. I don't think that'll be the case as we plan to be nuclear.

How long do parents take to come around to the idea of their daughter choosing her own life partner?