31F breakup situation, 31M and his girlfriend posted direct and personal things about me
I (F, early 30s) was involved with someone for almost 10 years. It wasn’t a clean or healthy relationship. There was a lot of overlap and dishonesty, and eventually I found out he was involved with multiple people at the same time, including the girl he is currently with.
Things blew up when everything came out. There were confrontations, apologies, emotional scenes from his side. At one point I tried to make his girlfriend aware of how he has been cheating and manipulating multiple women. She agreed in that moment and the very next day went back to him.
That was the point where I stepped back. I sent her one final message, cut contact completely, and tried to move on.
Like most people after a breakup, I posted a few things on my stories. Just normal stuff. Breakup quotes, indirect captions, nothing naming anyone, nothing personal, nothing about families. Just venting.
What I didn’t realise was that his friends were still viewing my public profiles and apparently passing it back to them.
A few days later, out of nowhere, his girlfriend started posting WhatsApp statuses about me. And from what I have, my ex was behind it and even told her what to post.
These were not vague or indirect. They were very specific and personal.
They included comments about my mental health, references to my family, sexual remarks about me, and statements attacking my character and calling me manipulative and attention seeking.
Since I cannot attach screenshots here, I’m writing exactly what was posted.
His gf:
“You’re 31, and yet your behavior screams teenage drama and unresolved insecurity. You’ve built your entire identity around playing the victim, posting hate, chasing attention online, and trying to drag others down to feel relevant. You cling to people for validation, even using your own pain for sympathy points, and still, you end up alone. You use self harm, your father, and fake victim stories to manipulate sympathy. You spent years with a man who never gave you the future you begged for. You tried to destroy my man with your past drama, and he still didn’t choose you. That must burn. You talk about me like it’s your full time job.”
His gf:
“But while you scream for attention online, I got the one thing you couldn’t: validation, commitment, and acceptance from the man and his family. You can keep running your mouth, but karma already handled you, you’re alone, bitter, and stuck in the same toxic cycle. Your karma is just reminding you that masks eventually fall off and yours is cracking loud enough for everyone to hear.”
My ex (what he told her to post):
“She’s a manipulative, attention hungry parasite who spent eight years playing the victim card like it’s her full time job. Every time she screwed up, she twisted some pathetic sob story to make people feel sorry for her, but everyone with half a brain could see right through it. She even spun lies about me to my own friends, desperate for sympathy, but still ended up humiliated because they saw who the real problem was. She milked her mother’s heart condition for pity while never showing a shred of genuine humanity herself. I was the idiot who actually took her to meet her own mother. And her father? A hypocritical clown who dares to talk about morality while living in his mistress’s house with his wife and daughter. The whole family is shameless. She can’t even control herself, runs to her ex’s bed, then cries victim afterward. And like a blind fool, I stood by her. Now she’s trying to dump all the blame on me, when I’ve been transparent since day one. Karma is coming for her. You reap the trash you sow. Since she doesn’t have anyone to satisfy her needs, she uses social media to target my girlfriend by posting things. Take a screenshot and post this now.”
His gf:
“I’m done. We don’t need your toxic energy in our relationship. You’ll never understand that a good beginning needs peace, not drama. For a good beginning it’s better to tie a barking dog. Keep your gossip, your attention grabbing stunts, and your manipulations. I have the commitment and respect you wanted and couldn’t keep. Blocked.”
It escalated to a point where my father had to step in. The moment they realised there was proof and that this could turn into something legal, all those statuses were deleted.
What stands out to me even now is the contrast.
On one side, I was posting generic breakup content that could apply to anyone.
On the other side, there were direct, personal attacks involving my family, my past, and things that were never meant to be public.
Months later, I still find myself stuck on how differently the same situation was handled by both sides.
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