I have a few questions:
During NC, do you delete any social media photos? I’m considering archiving some, rearranging others, or deleting a few. I already removed the most recent because it was a big birthday post for him.
Also, he reached out to me yesterday to wish me a happy birthday and to say that he appreciates me and cares, even though things have changed. He sent that message after five weeks of NC. I just liked the message—that’s it. I know he was just being kind, and I know he doesn’t want the responsibility of a relationship.
He’s the one who broke up with me due to his mental health—he’s under a lot of stress, unhappy with himself, and said his head feels scrambled. (The third week, I broke NC to get my things)My ex told me he's struggling with his mental health more due to the breakup. He told me he's scared of this deep love we have... and now that he's ended things, the breakup has been extremely difficult for him, but he doesn't regret ending things.
I think NC right now is really important for both of us, but I hope that one day, after we’ve both had time to heal, I can reach out to him.
I’m already learning so much about myself, and I want to keep growing. Space really does allow you to reflect on the good and bad... what you can improve on or continue doing. etc. I'm also joining therapy, something my family always made fun of, but I would really like to discover more about myself and how to heal.
His dad’s death anniversary is coming up next month. Do you think it would be a good idea to gently reach out? Not to reconnect, but just to say, “I know today can be a heavy day. I just wanted to acknowledge it and hope you’re doing okay.”