For context, we've been together for almost 4 years and lately she had been pretty distant with me. Now usually, this isn't any concern as it had been leading up to her finals for university, as she normally does focus more on studying. However, during the time where I have arranged multiple events where studying would be in her best interest, i.e. me just coming over and making her dinner, then going back home after. I know this might sound selfish of me, however after these invites, she declines the offer saying she needs to study. This is fine, however she then tells me that she is going out with some friends in the evening. So I'm thinking, alright cool relief from studying for a couple hours, without me thats alright. But it's not just a couple hours, its the entire night. It's fine. However, this had been happening for weeks. I know its selfish.
Now let's just jump to last week when I decided to talk to her about what's been happening between us for the last couple of weeks. She was profusely apologetic, telling me that it was because she had actually been falling out of love, and she was trying to see if me not being in her life as much anymore will allow her to see that she did still have those feelings towards me. She kept saying that it was definitely wrong of her to do that, but I can see why she did it even if it hurt me so much.
Now it just leaves me here where I have this person that I so dearly love and want to be in a relationship with, where the feelings aren't reciprocated in the same way. I can see where people will just end the relationship here because it wouldn't be healthy having this one sided life, however I just cannot bring myself to do so, even though she seems to be mentally checked out. She says she still loves me in a platonic way. My mind is just a mess and things may be missing, so if there's anything that needs clarification let me know and like. I am just feeling lost.
tl;dr: gf started acting distant towards me and we talked it out, then she drops that she started to lose romantic interest me in me even though i still love her a lot and i dont know what to do