u/Cautious-Sea-5874

I’m one of those people who just doesn’t like having people over. Idk why I just feel like peoples energy lingers around after. My dog also barks the whole time and it’s annoying.I also don’t like feeling like I have to impress people. My MIl and FIl want to come to our house so bad for some reason. They have been over a few times so it’s not like they have never seen our house. We don’t have much money so our house is very plain, not decorated, and needs repairs. My son also broke part of our couch and we are saving up for a new one. Everytime after Mil comes she’s sending stuff she thinks will look good or try’s to give us her old decorations. They are always looking around being kinda judgmental they say they aren’t but it feels like they are. So we always offer to come to see them which is a hour drive. You would think they would be happy we drove two toddlers a hour and spend the day with them. Non of my husbands siblings would ever. That’s not good enough. I’m a good cook and they think they should be invited over for dinner. When I just don’t want to do all that. Anytime husbands brothers kids have a ball game they come to our town thinking they should be able to drop by and we always make up and excuse for them not to come. Here lately they have buying my kids things which I’m very grateful for but they always want to bring it to us so they can come in. They never just ship it to us or let us get it at their house. Sometimes they will drive all the way over to drop of a random clothing item my son forgot in hopes they can come in and my husband just meets them in the driveway. Now they are offering to buy my husband something that is thousands of dollars that we could really use with the stipulation we have to let come over to our house. Idk if it’s just when it’s delivered or it’s giving them a in to come whenever because they got us that. It’s making me feel super icky and weird. Like they are willing to spend thousands of dollars just so they can snoop around our house idk. Again I feel grateful they would offer but I just feel weird about the stipulations.