Is my best friend's soon to be ex wife a narcissist?
Sorry, this will be long 😅
I'm pretty sure she is, and he is too, but I just want to be sure so I know the best way to help him. I only met her twice and that was back in 2014 (maybe late 2013), and I had red flags with her from day one. She made a point to insult my interests because "hers were better". She also made sure to keep my friend engaged in conversation with her so I couldn't get a word in, which seemed weird when the point of us meeting was to possibly become friends.
The second and last time I saw her, my husband was there and again, it was the same thing. She dominated the conversation and our friend was displaying some very out of character behavior that he never did before she came along. My husband brought it up to him via text the next day and received a text from her berating him and saying SHE was the one exhibiting those behaviors, not him.
She moved in with him soon after that and decided his cars needed to be surrendered to a shelter because they didn't like her cat. I told him that didn't sit right with me, as nd that was the end of our friendship until last October.
We got back in touch and he opened up to me and my husband about how bad things were with her. She bullied him into proposing, they got married at Panera with her dad officiating via Skype because she HAD to get married immediately. They moved states because she wanted to, had a kid because she wanted to, and basically everything about their relationship happened because she would whine until he gave in.
She insults his job constantly and says when they divorce, she's going to find a man who makes more money than him. She knows these comments upset him so she'll lovebomb him in the days following and then act like nothing ever happened. She regularly complains about how hard motherhood is and says if she knew how hard it was, she never would have done it.
My friend has me and my husband in his phone with different names in case she sees him texting us, because we're the only ones she has a problem with for some reason (likely because we don't bow down to her). She threw a tantrum when he told her he wasn't comfortable having her as a Facebook friend because he wanted something in his life that was just his. Also, after we got back in touch, he followed me on Duolingo and she found out, and she nagged him about it until he unfollowed me.
There's so much more but I think I've rambled enough 😅
TL:DR My best friend's soon to be ex wife might be a narcissist