u/Carous

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I crave connection, but i gate keep it

I crave a deep connection with someone. But I am paradoxically picky. Maybe it is my hubris. My ego is kind of big, but it is lonely. Maybe it's cringy to say, but I find myself emotionally and intellectually curious, and don't want to get attached unless the other person is the same way. What is worse is that I yearn for something romantic, but I gate keep that too. I yearn for the right one.

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u/Carous — 7 hours ago

26M Software Engineer in Texas Looking for Connection (VC Preferred)

I’m hoping to meet someone I can have deep, meaningful conversations with. I’m not really looking for occasional casual chats, life is too short for that! I’m hoping to build a genuine connection with someone.

If I had to describe the kind of person I tend to get along with best, a few qualities stand out:

  • Genuine
  • Curious about the world
  • Empathetic
  • Comfortable being vulnerable
  • Can be silly (unhinged silliness even)

Shared interests matter a little, but for me the biggest thing is the overall vibe and being able to talk openly with each other.

About me: I’m a software engineer living in a small town in Texas with my cat. I enjoy video games, spending time with friends when I can, and generally working toward big goals. I’m currently working on my master’s degree with the goal of moving into machine learning someday. I also hope to start a business in the future.

I’d prefer to move to voice chat sooner rather than later since it helps conversations feel more natural and keeps things from fading out.

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u/Carous — 3 days ago

I’m hoping to meet someone I can have deep, meaningful conversations with. I’m not really looking for occasional casual chats, life is too short for that! I’m hoping to build a genuine connection with someone.

If I had to describe the kind of person I tend to get along with best, a few qualities stand out:

  • Genuine
  • Curious about the world
  • Empathetic
  • Comfortable being vulnerable
  • Can be silly (unhinged silliness even)

Shared interests matter a little, but for me the biggest thing is the overall vibe and being able to talk openly with each other.

About me: I’m a software engineer living in a small town in Texas with my cat. I enjoy video games, spending time with friends when I can, and generally working toward big goals. I’m currently working on my master’s degree with the goal of moving into machine learning someday. I also hope to start a business in the future.

I’d prefer to move to voice chat sooner rather than later since it helps conversations feel more natural and keeps things from fading out.

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u/Carous — 7 days ago