Dear Straight Men, you guys gotta be more assertive
UPDATE: JFC you guys are beyond obnoxious; 90% of you are telling me I'm too old, surely not that hot, to get off your precious kink app, to wise up to the reality that men aren't interested. OK, thanks so much for this fantastic info, point taken 🎯 Truly insightful stuff. Maybe take a hard look in the mirror and ask yourselves why you responded to a perfectly nicely-worded post with such venom ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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I have been on Feeld ~6 months, and, as a 30-Something straight woman living in New York City, I am not wanting for matches. But it is absolutely wild how many of the dudes I match with drop the conversation... I don't subscribe to the traditional gender dynamic thang and have nooooo problem initiating, following up, and asking a guy out, but, even with my assertive disposition and my ~200 (no joke... Not boasting -- I am the rare straight Vanilla female lurking on the app, and I live in a city of 8 million horny people) matches, I have a lot of trouble actually pinning down a first date... The guys either never respond or stop responding or flake out as we're finalizing meet-up plans. And I can't help but think that some of these dudes are the same ones on this sub saying how they can't get a date on Feeld...
Also wanted to add re: straight guys having low success rates on this app... You gotta put several face photos. The vast majority of us girls like a *face* -- i.e., a body and/or a dick are simply not gonna cut it. Write a little bio, and include your height (if you're short, the hottest thing you can do is to *own it*). Cliche traps nearly every straight guy on Feeld falls into: "Being dominant" and "Threeway"/"FFM" Desires, use of the term "casual and consistent," bragging about how good you are at Going Downtown 😛 Just FYI
I totally get that MeToo has made guys proceed with caution, that you're unclear on how assertive you should/shouldn't be, etc., but, really, put a little more into your profile and chatting and I promise Feeld will yield better results!