I recently got engaged and am in the early process of wedding planning. I am already feeling overwhelmed by my fiancé’s family and I would love advice from those who have dealt with similar situations.
My fiance’s family are very kind people and they are excited about this wedding and want to be helpful. However, we recently went on vacation together and I have never been more ready to come home. I felt so overstimulated as my FMIL would not stop incessantly talking the entire vacation and would request to do everything as a big group. FSIL’s young children were there as well and are sweet but can be a lot. We were attached at the hip the entire week and a half long vacation and it was so much. FMIL would track our location in the rare occurrence we were not with her and call us asking to meet up and to plan more activities together. She even came into our hotel room multiple times and rearranged furniture in our room without asking. So that’s what I’m dealing with.
My fiancé has told them about our wedding plans so far and they don’t hold back on sharing their opinion and offering to help. So far this has made my fiancé want to change details we already agreed upon including the date of the wedding which we already submitted a deposit for. His mom has been reaching out offering to do things for the wedding I haven’t even begun to plan and I’m getting a bit stressed. I want to be kind and make planning a positive experience, but can see this problem getting much worse if not addressed. My fiance’s has not been good about setting boundaries with his family in the past. If anyone has any advice, it is welcome.