So, a bit of context. A school friend (let’s call her Val) of mine went off to work and travel. During her time abroad, she started cheating on her BF. I found out and told some of my boys. As time went on and we learnt more about what was going on, they became increasingly convinced that it was their duty to make sure Val's relationship ended. I just want to say this is not a post about the cheating, but about reactions to it. At first, I thought that they were just looking out for Val's BF, but I realized that wasn’t the case. He’s a dude who my friends make fun of all the time, and they haven’t talked to outside the times he has showed up with Val to our plans. For a while, this was the only thing they would ever talk about. It dawned on me that they just wanted to ruin Val’s relationship out of some previous beef they had with her. So, they wanted to talk to the two of them to let them know we knew everything that had happened.
At first, I was hesitant because I knew that
talking to either of them would be worthless because the odds that they stayed
together was like 99%. So, after talking
it over, I decide to message her and tell her everything that I've been told.
My boys messaged her ex (much to my displeasure) and that was it. This happened
when I was on vacation and every single day, they would text me and call me
demanding I tell them what her response was and to send them screenshots. Even
though she hadn't answered, they still went at it. One day, I didn't answer my
phone at all because I was down at the beach all day and they started accusing
me of withholding information. This got me angry, so I decided that I wasn't
going to tell them anything going forwards because a) they were in this whole
mess just to make Val's life terrible and b) they were being childish and
annoying. So, when she did respond, I gave them a TL; DR but it wasn’t enough. They demanded I sent over the SS but I am a petty person so I didn’t. I was growing tired of the situation and just wanted to stop talking about it.
A couple of weeks later, Val texted me telling me saying she had talked things over with her BF and that they were going to stay together. She also sent me some messages directed to me which were kind of personal. I decided to not tell my boys that Val had messaged me. When I received those messaged I was on the phone with another friend of mine and I told her about how I was tired of constantly having to talk about this situation and how annoying all my boys were being so I told her what Val texted me but to keep it lowkey because I was kind of angry at my friends. She unfortunately slipped up one day while talking to of my boy’s gf and of course now I am being treated as the villain. They’re saying that I am a bad friend and that I did not respect them enough to tell them. That how dare I justify my actions instead of instantly apologizing to them. So, am I the asshole for doing this?