Is he being genuine about his time or am I being to understanding?
I a 24(F) have been talking to this man 25(M)
For about three months now, and I wanted to get your guys opinion on whether or not he’s being genuine about him being as busy as he says he is.
In the beginning, we hit it off very well on Hinge so much so we decided to go on a walk in the park type of date. He made sure to communicate to me that his time would be limited on how much we can hang out due to the fact that he works a full 9 to 5 job as a data analyst and is also in a fellowship that he has to do right after he gets off work , he does a lot of of the homework over the weekend.
I respected it and gave him grace because I felt like at least him being busy is to do with him bettering himself, and I thought that that meant we will only be able to see each other at least once a week. In reality, though we average seeing each other 2 to 3 times out of the month.
And a lot of the dates that we do have only manage to be about 4 hours tops . I don’t have the option to go over to his place because he lives with his mom and dad and siblings as a way to save money which is fair. But it also kind of sucks because he lives literally 10 to 15 minutes away from me so it’s not like he has to travel a long distance to come see me.
Also to mention on one of the dates I decided to try and get a little bit of info on his relationship history and he explained to me that a lot of his relationships in the past didn’t work out because of his lack of communication, which is one thing I’ve had to mention to him when we first started dating and he also didn’t really know if he was cut out for a relationships because he’s very facts over feelings based. But in the same instance, he said that that didn’t mean that he didn’t want a relationship and at that time we ultimately decided to take another month to figure out whether or not we wanted to lock in with each other. We also had to talk about marriage and he was still on the fence about whether or not he wanted to get married in the future but he knew he definitely wanted to have kids.
I also asked him once his fellowship was up would he have more free time, and I feel like I’m obviously asking that in reference to spending time with me , and his response was “ yeah for a little bit, but I am always finding something to do”
I’m getting to the point now, though where I’m questioning if he even really has time to dedicate to one or if he even considers it to be a priority. I don’t feel like I need to be the first priority in his life, but I should be one if we’re gonna be committing to each other and I have always heard the term men make time for the things that they want so it makes me question. How much does he truly want a relationship especially with me, and if we were to get into one, is this what our relationship is gonna look like the whole time?
I’ve attached some photos of just certain moments of me trying to communicate to him that I need him to do a little bit better especially when it comes to his communication.
Also, please keep in mind you guys are only getting a small percentage of our conversations. He has communicated to me about how much he likes me especially when we started talking so that’s why I say a lot of the things that I say in my messages.😭
Any advice y’all?