u/Careful_Artichoke352

Hey so I always wanted 2 kids since before I can remember. When my husband and I got together, he said he never saw himself with kids until he got with me. I said definitely 2 and mayyyyybe 3. He said 1 maybe 2. So we had 2. Age gap is veryyyy important to me - I want my kids going through the same life stages together for emotional and financial reasons.

Now: our kids just turned 1 and 3. I do not want to go back on birth control. I don’t want to f* up my hormones. A vasectomy is nothing compared to the stitches I had to get pushing out his giant ass babies let alone the equivalent pain of one menstrual period.

Now he won’t sign the papers. He’s worried about gods plan. He’s more religious than I. I’m starting to think about going back to school for my masters when the kids get into school. I’ve been a stay at home mom the last year. I want to build a solid career so I can buy us a house where the kids can have their own rooms, a big backyard, and a summer vacation.

He doesn’t want another kid. But he thinks a vasectomy is against gods design.

Now we don’t have sex anymore. Do you guys think:

1. He does want another kid but won’t admit it (his family would disapprove, finances, strain on my career path, etc.)

2. He is okay with another kid because “gods design”

3. I should suck it up and get an IUD

4. I should just sign his papers and turn them in and schedule and appointment because he never will

5. Just have another kid lol

I want to start painting with my babies but cannot afford nice canvases. But thrift stores have huge cheap art for sale. What do I need to do to the to be able to paint over them? I’m not a pro painter but I did like take some classes a while back and vaguely remember someone mentioning they did this. This cannot be expensive! TIA!

Heads up my last job was managing an art gallery. I handled a Picasso. I know what’s good art and what’s stuff made by someone attempting a hobby and what is from TJ Max. I will not destroy any good art, I pinky promise.