We have a full time planner but we’ve had to put in a lot of work as well.
For example - it took me nearly 2 months on top of working full time to create our website (I created one from scratch). We have created a very thoughtful magazine that includes food schedules, transfers, games, etc. I’ve spent time designing welcome bags, custom pool day towels, scarves, etc. When it was time to select DJ or any vendors I took my time & really dug into every detail. I’ve poured so much into the details of hosting 130 people fully for 3 days. All meals are being catered in. I’ve sent out & created detailed polls so that guests feel heard & respected. I’ve put a lot of thought into their experience & comfort.
I’m saying all of this because I think I’ve exhausted myself & now that the wedding is less than a month away. All I’m getting is sass, “I’m sure the planner did a great job with the details”, “why are you stressed”, “why have you spent so much time wedding planning”.
I know that you’re not supposed to expect what you’ve given into something back but now I’m worried that I’ve went too deep into this. I’ll be the one who notices every detail that doesn’t go perfect because I’ve poured in so much effort.
I’m searching for advice from someone who has felt like this & wanting to know how to reset my exceptions so I don’t blow up with the millions of questions & attitude & doubt from guests I’m receiving right now. Also how to not take it personally when my wedding planner gets the majority of the credit, although I didn’t like a lot of her vendors & had to find my own.
Ugh see- there I go adding attitude when I should be grateful & excited! Maybe I’m just going crazy.