u/CardiologistNo9071

hi guys. my (19F) friend (20F) has done some things in our friendship to make me question wether she adds any value to my life as a friend or not. for context, i moved across the us in 2023, and she was my first friend in my new location. we both lived in the same apartment complex but she was like 3 buildings over. we would oftentimes have sleepover and she would come over to hangout. on multiple occasions she would wake me up in the middle of the night to ask if she could clean my room/bathroom. (i was just disorganized, not necessarily dirty). i’m a pretty heavy sleeper so when i get woken up, i usually just say whatever comes to mind and roll back over, so i know that i had told her yes. there was one specific day i had just gotten a new self care product. she came over to spend the night that night, i had used the product that night as well. the next day, she went home and i went about my business. i ended up going to take a shower and the new product i got was just gone. i looked EVERYWHERE. the same exact situation with some of my clothes, art supplies, perfume/hand sanitizer and other small things that wouldn’t necessarily be noticed. one day i went over to her apartment and was in the bathroom where i discovered 2 different products that had gone missing from my house but she suddenly had them. i never said anything.

fast forward, there have been multiple instances where she has stolen money/items from me, kept things from me, and she is always asking me to spend money on her when we go out.

i’ve never brought any of the stealing to her attention, as she is very easily offended, and i just didn’t know how to handle the situation.

any advice?