Edit: I should add context - he does a lot of house stuff and takes care of our pets. He also works a lot which has enabled me to work only part time. His mom agrees with the spoiling so i don’t think it’s just a “man” thing.
My husband has flippantly said a few times that I’ve “spoiled” our 15 week old baby and made her “needy” because I pick her up when she cries.
I do pause and see if she’ll settle, but yeah—if she’s crying, I respond. And also, sometimes I just like holding her! But apparently that’s a problem 🙄
He thinks she should just sit in her bouncer while I cook or do chores. And yes, sometimes she’s happy and does that—but sometimes she’s not. Example, today she was crying (like mini meltdown) and he said it was for no reason because she was fed and changed. I tried to pick her up but he said “leave her” (this was after his spoiled comment). I had a feeling she was tired because her first two naps were both 30min or less, so I got changed and took her out to run errands. When we got in the car she calmed down and then feel asleep on the drive. To me, she was overtired but his feeling is: “If she’s tired she should just sleep.” Like… that’s not how babies work??
I just feel like it’s really easy to say flippant comments when he weren’t the one that took care of her everyday for three months.
Do other moms get this from their partners or am I spoiling her?