I was friends with 2 people who were a couple for years and they’ve just recently broken up. I’ve stuck with one of them (A) and am no longer talking to/friends with their ex partner (B) for a number of reasons.
We’re all in the online/art world and a couple years ago I would chat to B one on one sometimes about characters/OCs/headcanons etc. It got to the point where we would talk more frequently and discuss NSFW headcanons and send art of that nature to one another. at the time I didn’t think anything of it bc it was just about fictional characters and stuff, and we would talk about similar things in our main GC with all three of us sometimes, but thinking back on it now I’m really starting to feel like it was wrong of me to do that.
I stopped talking to them about this kind of thing around 2024 because to be honest it started to make me feel a bit uncomfortable how often they would send me stuff. I stopped replying as much as I used to. It never really felt like something I was hiding from A purposefully bc again we would talk about similar things altogether, I know I should have questioned it but I really didn’t think anything of it at the time.
I was reminded of all this because I just spoke to A and they told me that apparently something similar had happened years prior with B and another one of their friends. They were not cool with it at all and they told B about it upsetting them at the time. I feel awful and like I should come clean about it and show them the messages. But also I’m worrying if finding this out will just make things worse for A at the moment because the breakup has been really bad for them for a number of reasons.
I have terrible moral OCD and I don’t know if this counts as cheating or not. The urge to confess everything is so strong right now but I can’t tell if it’s just a compulsion or if it’s genuinely the right thing to do in this situation. Knowing how they felt about the incident that happened before I would feel terrible keeping this to myself.
Any advice would be appreciated.