How to last name your kid(s)?
My partner and I are at an impasse over the last name our kid(s) will have.
We both agree that we want her name to be included because well, she’s doing the 9 months of growing and birthing and putting her career on hold and having her biology change and all that. However we disagree about the names.
One of us suggested we hyphenate so First, LastA-LastB. Like in Hispanic culture (which one of us is from). But the concern is that it’s long, clunky, inconvenient, and the name that is easier to say/write will cause it to be favored over the other
The other suggestion(s) is to split the last name between two kids. So kid q will be First, LastA and second kid will be First, and LastB. The concerns with this one is that it’s excluding one parent’s last name from one kid and causing a divide between siblings as to last names.
Another solution is similar to this previous one but to use middle names as a place for the other parent’s last name and vice verse with the other kid but that one raises similar issues.
Another solution was using neither last name and creating a new hybrid last name that is a hybrid of both parent’s last name.
No solution has come out as acceptable to both parents and we are at an impasses.
What are some solutions and Pros/Cons to these problems and solutions?