Ovulation week - pressure
Hi. I’m a 29 y/o female ttc.
Fell pregnant in February but miscarried at 7 weeks for no reason. Been trying for a year.
My issue is that my husband finds it pressuring when I tell him I’m ovulating right now or about to. Suddenly he can’t perform although we normally don’t have issues. I tell him when it’s my fertile week but sometimes (because my cycle varies) we’ll try once or twice that week, but then I’ll feel ovulation pain 3 days later or so, or test and it’ll be positive but once I tell him he finds it so pressuring and can’t really perform. So before anyone says why don’t you try in the days leading up to, we do, but it doesn’t always align well with when I actually do ovulate, and sometimes hubby doesn’t feel like doing it every other day (it becomes a chore, as he expresses).
I’m so lost between feeling angry/contempt towards him for that but also not wanting to make sex become such a chore for him that he hates it. Unfortunately he’s not like men that love doing it everyday; if it’s a task or feels like one, he hates it. What the heck should I do? Every month feels like a lifetime and I feel so much contempt when we miss a month because he couldn’t do it one more time or so. I’m so angry and defeated.